Growing up in my family, we became accustomed to the insults that are meant to be funny. It is known as a form of family bonding. Eventually there is this cycle of pointing out flaws in people that are in our circle. It seems harmless, only there is a long-term harm that can diminish the ability to be successful.
This analysis may seem silly, but it is true. As we progress through generations, the term “thick skin” has lost its meaning. In fact, as we become older those little insults float around creating self-esteem issues that are not immediately noticed. If someone tells you enough times that you are stupid, in the back of your head this is part of your description for yourself. However, if you have an environment where everyone tells you how smart and capable you are this becomes your reality.
It is important to become proactive in only surrounding yourself with people that only say positive things about you or at least know when to say nothing at all. In addition, you must also be someone who does not give energy to judging others or saying negative things about other people. This is difficult if you have been raised the same way I have where you learn to take the insults and laugh it off.
Let’s consider the way we communicate generationally to understand the lasting effects of judgement and insults:
Juanita Espino B.S. Comm., M.A.Ed.
Communications Consultant and Professional Advisor