The Guilty Working Mom

Being a mom in 2018 is vastly different than being a mom in 1972. To meet the economic needs of a family these days, most mothers must work. It is typical for a mom to prepare breakfast, lunch (or at least know how the kids will eat), dress their kids, and equip their kids with school supplies right before dashing off to work. While at work, the cell phone is being monitored for emergencies. Once out of work a working mother will pick up her kids, take them to afterschool activities. When she is finally home, she still must go over letters from school and make sure homework is done, while making dinner. When this is finally done, she can sleep just to start all over again the next day.  
We are certainly not June Cleaver anymore. It is so common for women to work versus the 60’s and 70’s where it was common for the mom to stay at home and manage the household. There is no sympathy for the demands of a working mother.
There were times when I worked an 80-hour week when my sons were younger. I also went to school. When I was finally able to see my sons in the evening, I still had to make sure they ate dinner, made sure they took baths, and still go over letters from school, and make sure homework is done.
I don’t see this trend changing anytime soon. Therefore, moms need to figure out how to work smarter to work less hard. Now before anyone misinterprets what I am saying, I am simply saying for the sake of being sane and healthy let’s figure out how to give our super mom cape a rest sometimes. The question is not “can we do it all”. We have already answered that question and the answer is “hell yeah”. I am proposing that we review all options and opportunities to make our life a little easier.

• There are some of us who are blessed to have a mate or even live with family. Enlist their help in some of the duties.
• Most schools offer after school tutoring. This is a great place to finish homework.
• Ask your employer if there are any telecommuting opportunities. Believe it or not, the stress of driving back and forth can be relieved if there is one less place you have to go.
• As your kids mature, teach them responsibility. Allow them to make their own lunch, clean their rooms, wash clothes, and help with dinner. This will only make them better adults.
• Find time for you. I cannot express how mandatory this is. There is no need to feel guilty about loving the person you are. To do this, you must make time for you. Workout, have a drink, go shopping, visit the outside world. You will be a better mom if you do this.

Don’t become caught in the “guilty mom” trend of spreading yourself too thin and making up for it with shiny toys and expensive trips. Spend quality time with your kids before and after work. Your family deserves the one unique gift you give, which is you. 

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